No matter how much you love someone, I think we can all agree we sometimes need our own time away from them to reset our batteries. Some people may be pissed at me for saying this, but the same rings true with your children. I read a quote that said “Children don’t need perfect mothers, they need a happy one.” I feel like this couldn’t be more true. I’ve realized in taking care of myself, I’m taking care of my family too. It better equips me to help others if I’m already cared for and my resources aren’t drained.
It’s important to schedule something in your day or week that helps you reset and recover. I get up early to read in the morning. Does it suck to wake up earlier than my child? Absolutely. Is it worth it for a wonderful start to my day so I’m happy to see my smiley baby when she awakens? Absolutely! If it’s a priority to you, you will have to carve out a chunk of time, be it even 10 minutes, and dedicate to it.
Also, it is OKAY to ask for help sometimes if you’re feeling overwhelmed. There’s absolutely no shame in needing a break or help to get something done. This is something I struggled with hard. I’m chronically ill and need a little more help than your average person. I don’t particularly enjoy it, but I’ve accepted this and it’s made life much better for myself and my daughter.