Admitting my eating habits went from one extreme to another.

I recall several years ago when the idea of ingesting a single calorie filled me with overwhelming dread. I avoided eating wherever possible and what small amount of food I consumed I forcibly threw back up. It was a cycle that barraged my self esteem and body for seven years. Fortunately, or so I thought, I entered recovery. My eating disorder (anorexia) had gone into remission. I learned to enjoy treats on occasion, while maintaining a relatively healthy diet. The occasional treats however started to become staples in my diet. Pizza was a regular “treat” and I began eating at fast food places again, something I hadn’t done for over eight years. The occasional fast food visit is fine, but I am embarrassed to admit it was happening several times per week, and occasionally more than once in a single day.

Of course I eventually began to gain weight. As pounds began to pile on, so did the weight of depression. As humans, when we are depressed we do whatever it takes to eliminate such isolating, painful feelings. I drowned my depression in food, the one thing that gave me a false sense of control. The issue with having a food related disorder is that it is vital for survival. You can’t ever NOT have food in your life. I became a binge eater, consuming whatever food would calm my cravings and emotions. My cravings were stress and depression induced, so my intake was full of refined sugars, heavy carbs, and lots and lots of cheese.

In moderation, any food is fine and it’s healthy to grant yourself permission to enjoy what you consume. I on the other hand had started eating until I was past full, to the point where my stomach ached. I went from a previously average weight of 130 pounds to 175 pounds within a year. Mind you, part of that was due to my limited mobility from chronic illness, but my dietary changes for the worse certainly impacted this. What has helped me deal with this particular challenge is giving myself permission to eat. It sounds silly and simplistic, but by giving myself permission to have the foods I constantly was at war with, I realized that I could indeed only have one or two slices of pizza instead of five or six. The harder I restricted in my head, the more junk food was my source of fuel. I distinctly recall thinking to myself “No pizza for the next three weeks,” and the first thing I’d crave was, you guessed it, pizza. What’s worse is that beyond weight, it impacted me other ways too. I felt even more sluggish than my health conditions made me feel because it is true that what we eat is our energy source. I’m not saying to never eat “junk” food again, which by the way is a term I disagree with due to negative connotations. I’m saying learn the art of moderation.

To help myself avoid binge eating, I would include more veggies on my plate and lean proteins to help fill me up. That doesn’t mean leaving my treat of choice off my plate, it means I’m ensuring to also include nutrient rich foods on the plate too. Regardless, the biggest lesson I learned here was this; pounds and size do not measure your worth. I HAVE fat, but my only identifier shouldn’t be “fat.” I also have teeth, hair and fingernails, am I identified solely by those characteristics? No, I am not and anyone who would identify someone based on those features is projecting their own insecurity.

I am identified by the driven, loving spirit inside of me. I am defined by the way I carry myself and the hope in my heart. There is no shame in having a body that societal perceptions tell you to hate. The beautiful thing about perception is that it isn’t fact and we can make the choice to alter our own to see things in a more positive light. I have altered my perception of my body, learning to treat it as the vessel that contains my personality and helps me travel through the world. One of my favorite quotes that serves as a reminder to me to keep forward in recovery is “Reason to love your body; How is hating it working for you?” Hating my body never has nor ever will work. I can not hate myself into a beautiful person. I can instead glow from within by nurturing my inner beauty. Once you begin doing that, people pick up on your positive energies and it reflects the only beauty that is permanent and that matters. External beauty fades, whereas inner qualities remain and have the ability to flourish, if you let them. Think of your negative perceptions about yourself as weeds that crowd out the parts of you that deserve to blossom. Start plucking them one by one, and soon you’ll see just how beautiful your inner garden truly is.

 

With love,

 

Jessica

2 thoughts on “Admitting my eating habits went from one extreme to another.

  1. I really appreciate the candor with which you wrote this. It’s hard to have conversations about eating disorders. You’re clearly a very strong person (and an awesome writer!). Thank you for sharing where your journey has led so far. ❤

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